I. Introduction

Respect is not something handed out freely; it is earned and built over time as we get to know someone. Upon meeting an INFP for the first time, or even the first few times, you might not immediately recognize their intelligence. INFPs are often quiet and introverted, making it challenging for others to delve deeply into their character. They don’t flaunt their intelligence, achievements, or education. Instead, you might find them endearing, child-like, or even innocent, as they often appear younger than their actual age.

II. First Impressions

Speaking from personal experience, even as a 35-year-old, people often mistake me for someone in my mid-20s. This is partly due to my openness to learning new things and my casual, curious attitude. (It doesn’t hurt that I also look younger than I am.) What people don’t see is my deep dive into philosophies, my study of various religions, and my commitment to a personal philosophical tradition. They are unaware of my dedication to higher education and my passion for my hobbies. Yet, I don’t want to be confined or defined by these categories. I don’t seek to be viewed as a high-brow academic or an elitist artist. INFPs work quietly behind the scenes, influencing others through actions, expressing the beauty of the ineffable, helping the most vulnerable, and guiding minds towards higher moral decisions.

III. Personal Experience

INFPs are less likely to rush into unhealthy relationships because we see the unhappiness that often pervades the lives of many couples or parents. We are less influenced by a culture obsessed with self-image, materialism, and sensory pleasures. Instead, we prefer the long, narrow road of self-discovery over societal conventions that bring little joy. Joining a multinational corporation for the sake of money, popularity, or prestige does not appeal to us. We refuse to sacrifice our personalities and passions for soulless pursuits. I, for one, would rather squeeze every mundane experience like a lemon, searching for the essence of life, learning from my experiences, and distilling my philosophical and moral system to live wisely.

IV. INFP Values and Lifestyle

INFPs gradually earn the respect of those who value what we value by rejecting what many others pursue. We perceive these pursuits as an aggressive rejection of humanity, goodness, and childhood dreams. Those who choose the narrow path of self-discovery will find life in abundance.

By embracing who we are and staying true to our values, INFPs earn respect in a quiet yet profound way. We might not be the loudest or the most noticeable, but our depth, dedication, and authenticity speak volumes. In a world often driven by superficial achievements, the INFP’s journey of self-discovery and moral integrity offers a refreshing and meaningful alternative.

V. The Path to Gaining Respect

Is it difficult for an INFP to get respect? We live to be understanding and respectful to all of God’s creatures. But is that returned to us? Not so much without a fight.

Perhaps it’s because we naturally tend to be indecisive and procrastinate on tasks we know we should complete but simply don’t feel like doing. Our ability to go into “invisible mode” and escape into our thoughts is second to none.

VI. Challenges in Gaining Respect

We are individualistic loners with peculiar and quirky ways of thinking and feeling. Our methods may not be the most efficient or profitable, but they are uniquely ours. Often, we quietly lack confidence. Despite having secret, meaningful, passionate, and creative pursuits, these endeavors may never come to fruition due to a fear of failure and lack of discipline.

We are aliens in a fast-paced world that values competence and realism above being an empathic, gentle dreamer. In this world, we cherish noble dreams and observe the unfolding of time from our comfort zones.

VII. Conclusion

Yet, there is beauty in our way of life. Our empathy allows us to connect deeply with others, even if it’s not always reciprocated. Our dreams and observations, though not always understood, add a unique and valuable perspective to the world. While gaining respect may be a struggle, the quiet strength of an INFP lies in staying true to oneself, even when the world demands otherwise.

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